Offloading, Accepting, Transforming
I've just finished speaking to a lady on the phone from a local charity that helps people with mental health issues.
As I might have mentioned previously I had tried to make a GP appointment (with a new GP) in order to access this very charity (they require a diagnosis or doctor's letter). The receptionist had said the only available appointment was 3 weeks away. I initially accepted this but later went back to ask for an earlier appointment, as I felt that they had let me down earlier. I was assertive with the receptionist which did make me feel better, as I was attempting to get my needs met (authenticity again). We had left it that I would talk to the GP practice manager to get an earlier appointment.
Anyway I had been quite angry about the delay. However after a bit of a rant online and the assertive feedback to the receptionist (I wasn't that bad honest!), and a couple of days doing other things, I have calmed down quite considerably (I guess I had emptied and also time can be a healer or soother).
I now feel different about the situation. I feel that I can take the next few weeks to prepare the other detailed paperwork ready for when I see the GP and the charity. So in short the way I feel about the situation has changed from it 'being a long time to wait' to 'use the time to plan, prepare and relax'.
I noticed a nice pattern here.
I did this:
1. Offloaded (also known as a rant or a bit of a whinge, blogging or otherwise).
2. I accepted the situation.
3. I transformed the way I thought of the situation.
The advantage of blogging something is that you are offloading indirectly, i.e. you are not offloading directly at the person. Of course sometimes it IS best to direct your criticisms and annoyance at the offending individual if you feel that is right, which it can be if you are complaining about something genuine I guess.
I know I keep banging on about this, but being authentic is a great way to do the offloading. Again being authentic doesn't necessarily mean blowing up at people for everything. Authenticity obviously means taking in to consideration ALL your feelings about a situation (i.e. one part of you might feel angry and might want to get angry with the person, and another part of you might want to be more pragmatic and walk off. Your gut feeling will balance out all these parts and come up with the path that is meant to be!).
Anyway I hope that process of 1, 2, 3 above can help someone!
Any comments always appreciated, good or bad. Remember be authentic ;-)
As I might have mentioned previously I had tried to make a GP appointment (with a new GP) in order to access this very charity (they require a diagnosis or doctor's letter). The receptionist had said the only available appointment was 3 weeks away. I initially accepted this but later went back to ask for an earlier appointment, as I felt that they had let me down earlier. I was assertive with the receptionist which did make me feel better, as I was attempting to get my needs met (authenticity again). We had left it that I would talk to the GP practice manager to get an earlier appointment.
Anyway I had been quite angry about the delay. However after a bit of a rant online and the assertive feedback to the receptionist (I wasn't that bad honest!), and a couple of days doing other things, I have calmed down quite considerably (I guess I had emptied and also time can be a healer or soother).
I now feel different about the situation. I feel that I can take the next few weeks to prepare the other detailed paperwork ready for when I see the GP and the charity. So in short the way I feel about the situation has changed from it 'being a long time to wait' to 'use the time to plan, prepare and relax'.
I noticed a nice pattern here.
I did this:
1. Offloaded (also known as a rant or a bit of a whinge, blogging or otherwise).
2. I accepted the situation.
3. I transformed the way I thought of the situation.
The advantage of blogging something is that you are offloading indirectly, i.e. you are not offloading directly at the person. Of course sometimes it IS best to direct your criticisms and annoyance at the offending individual if you feel that is right, which it can be if you are complaining about something genuine I guess.
I know I keep banging on about this, but being authentic is a great way to do the offloading. Again being authentic doesn't necessarily mean blowing up at people for everything. Authenticity obviously means taking in to consideration ALL your feelings about a situation (i.e. one part of you might feel angry and might want to get angry with the person, and another part of you might want to be more pragmatic and walk off. Your gut feeling will balance out all these parts and come up with the path that is meant to be!).
Anyway I hope that process of 1, 2, 3 above can help someone!
Any comments always appreciated, good or bad. Remember be authentic ;-)
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